I know that most boys can be wild. G and J have their moments, and they definitely feed off each other. Together, or even separately, at home, they can be whiney, oppositional, aggressive. I know its typical, and some days are better than others. When they are super tired or overstimulated, it gets worse. Totally normal.
But G and J at three? At school? G was a mess. He had difficulty making and keeping friends- the other kids were frequently afraid of him. He had no ability to put a lid on certain behaviors away from home. Any situation would trigger the inappropriate behaviors, and he couldn't control them. Entire classes were disrupted, students got hurt, things were broken.
J, on the other hand, is the apple of his teacher's eye. He has gotten perfect marks on his positive behavior system charts. The other kids want to hug him, and he's talking about his friends. The teachers say he follows directions and is great at cleaning up.
G, before medicine, couldn't control himself in varying situation. J, as a neurotypical child, has no problem altering his behavior to fit a given situation.
I do not prefer one child over the other. There are things about G that I love, and these things make him very different from his brother. J has his own unique set of traits. The boys are so different, and i love them both so much. It really is amazing, though, to send a kid to school and not have to be really tense each day when its time to pick him up. With G, I'm always anticipating a problem at home or at school. Thinking about how to head off a problem before it happens. Apologizing and making up for incidents. With J, its a whole other ballgame.
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