We are currently having an issue with G and lying. Up until the past month or so, he was faithfully truthful. He would flat out tell you that he hurt someone or took something or climbed somewhere he wasn't supposed to. I've cultivated that truthfulness and always told him how proud I am of him for telling the truth. We've talked about the consequences of lying for years, so that he would understand why I am proud that I can trust him to tell me the truth.
Not anymore. The lies aren't over big things. One was about who made the mess in J's room. G said it was J, while J said it was both of them. G went to bed early over that, with lots of crying and promises to never do it again. We had a long discussion about the consequences for the two situations. If he'd told me that they both made the mess, I would've had them both clean it up. Because he lied, there was a punishment involved.
This morning, the Lego city was partially deconstructed. G insisted that J did it. Upon arrival at the scene, J informs me that they both did it. G immediately apologizes for lying and begins bawling.
So he's in his room for the day and has lost screen time for two days, at least. I'm at a loss about other consequences. Treat him like a younger child to show that I can't trust him? Make each punishment longer and more severe since the earlier one didn't work? I'm open to ideas, Internet.
How do you stop the lying?
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